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Over the top Relationship is important. Relationships and Marriage can be wonderful and yet challenging. It’s normal to have your up’s and downs in any relationship. Let’s face it…Relationships are hard. But they don’t have to be. As human beings we are meant to have “that special someone” that adds to the enjoyment of our lives.

Sometimes relationships can seem like a lot of work until you sit back and realize just how much you’ve been given. In addition, a thriving, healthy relationship requires some give and take. It is absolutely within your reach if you and your partner are willing to do a bit of work. Furthermore, if you and your partner are right for each other, all the work will definitely be worth it in the long run. Read on about having an over the top Relationship!

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Save yourself several hours of arguing by remembering this one rule. It’s not up to anyone else to make you happy. Thus, in a relationship your partner will try to please you and make you happy. But in the end you are responsible for your happiness.

#1. Make good on your words: Having an over the top relationship.

First, follow through on your promises. When you say you’re going to do something, do it. Don’t say that you’ll cook dinner, or get a birthday present, and then blow it off. What this does is systematically destroy trust. And relationships need trust in order to thrive.

#2. Admit your mistakes.

Second, If you know you’ve done something to hurt your partner, intentionally or not, own up to it. Humble yourself and apologize sincerely. And do this without making excuses or justifications such as; “I’m sorry you made me angry.” Moreover, you have to be responsible for your actions and cannot make anyone else feel guilty for what you have done or didn’t do.

Commit to changing your behavior. If you notice yourself apologizing for the same mistakes over and over, step it up a notch. More importantly, tell your partner that you recognized this mistake. And that it keeps happening. In addition, you want to train yourself to stop. Request help and ask for him or her to gently point it out to you when you’re making this mistake again.

#3. Be realistic.

Every relationship has disagreements and days when staying isn’t the easiest of choices. But what makes a relationship healthy is choosing to resolve those problems. Push through the hard days, instead of just letting issues and resentment fester. By working through your problems it will help you be a much more positive person.

Review your expectations. Do you see your partner as a person, with both winning qualities and flaws? Or do you view them as someone you expect to be perfect?

If your expectations are so astronomical that no one could live up to them 100% of the time, then you’re setting up your relationship for failure. Learn to embrace their differences. You can learn a lot from them.

#4. Accept that conflict happens.

If you expect to be in a long-term relationship, you’re bound to have the occasional disagreement. Remember that one argument isn’t the end of everything. In addition, there’s no person on earth that you’d agree with all of the time.

Moreover, always ask yourself whether you’re better off in the relationship than out of it. If you don’t think you’re better off in the relationship, then you probably should have a serious discussion with your partner. Noteworthy, in a loving relationship, this question almost always gets a simple “Yes.”

#5. Listen to your partner.

Sometimes, all your partner wants is for you to lend an ear and be sympathetic about one of their problems. Other times, your partner wants you to actively give them advice. Know which one your partner is looking for, and try to give them what they want. Being a good
listener is all about paying attention to what they’re saying and not blowing it off.

On this note, you can always ask “Are you looking for advice, or do you just want to vent?” Listening to your partner will enhance your relationship in many ways. Hence, it will help you resolve differences without arguing. In addition it will let you explore each other’s personality more deeply. There are no downsides to listening, ever.

#6. Show your affection in whatever way you can.

First of all, there’s a difference between knowing that you’re loved and feeling that you’re loved. Sometimes, we bank on the fact that our partners should know that we love them even when we don’t show it. The best relationships use affection to show love.

Do something for your partner that you know they will truly appreciate. Whether it m
eans getting up early to mow the lawn, taking the kids to karate, or cooking their favorite meal.

Don’t be afraid to show physical affection every once in a while. Loving relationships feed off of the little kisses, hugs, and back-rubs that are mainstays of affection. Furthermore, do the unexpected. It’s one thing to kiss your partner after you come home from work. It’s quite another thing to kiss your wife while you’re skydiving, falling 10,000 feet from a plane.

#7. Be loyal.

Make sure they know that you will always be there for them. Put them first in your life as much as you possibly can. Also, expect the same loyalty from them in return. You deserve to feel prized in the relationship just as much as them.Being loyal doesn’t mean you have to stop hanging out with friends or enjoy activities apart from your partner. On another note, do not cheat on your partner.

#8. Give them some space.

Everyone needs their own privacy and some freedom. So don’t constantly watch everything they do. Everyone hates to be watched, stifled and controlled. Do not ever spy on your partner. Such as; reading their phone, stalking them on social networks, or following them around. If they are cheating on you, you will find out. These things cannot be kept secret for very long. But if you spy on them and they are innocent, you will lose their trust and respect forever.

#9. Express your feelings towards them.

Always remind your partner of how much they mean to you. Women are not the only ones who need expressions of love and care. Men need that too! If you have a problem, you need to let them know. In a clear and calm manner and without any yelling or blaming. If your partner says `”Are you OK?”` and you answer yes, do not expect them to understand that you really meant no. Be honest and open.

Let them know it is safe to open up to you about what they are feeling. Reward their trust in you by sympathizing with them. But you don`t need to say much, just listen.

In addition, a solid relationship should be based on mutual respect. Hence, if you are constantly trying to pull them down with you, this means you don`t respect them enough to want them happy. If you’re having serious issues with depression, self esteem, or mental illness, start seeing a counselor.

References: wikihow.com,

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